I was at the bank earlier today, during my lunch break, taking care of some financial chore (why else would anybody be in a bank). When my transaction was concluded the bank person looking after me asked if I am Filipino, a pleasant turn in the conversation, so I affirmed his guess. From there he cheerfully demonstrated his limited skill in the Filipino language, which he learned from his ex-wife who happened to hail from Davao.
He told me all about the wonderful memories he have visiting the country, especially the south. I appreciate comment like this, since not all those who have visited the country have similar delightful experience. A good buddy of mine who live in Sydney (I was the best man in his wedding) didn't have anything particularly good to say about my homeland after his first and only visit.
Just when I thought the conversation was over, his face turned serious and asked "You're a catholic?" I said "Yes" he then continued "So am I". I contemplated on being cheeky and say "What can we do huh? Nobody's perfect." but decided against it... the guy seemed too serious for that now. He then said "Manila is good too, except that there is a lot of prostitution.". The Philippines is known for a lot of things, prostitution is probably among one of them but it is not something that generally comes up in polite conversation. I wasn't prepared for that so I gave him a blank look and said "Well... it is a poverty stricken country. I think you'll find prostitution active in a lot of the poorer countries.". He didn't like that answer which on hindsight was not really the best. He then said "I know that most people in Manila are Christians". I thought to myself "Oh boy... I'm having that kind of conversation... in a bank of all places".
He went on "As Christians we have better values and we are better than that." or words to that effect. I thought about saying something about religion and "better values" being relative terms, that no religion can claim better moral code than the rest, but the discussion is not really about that. I'm sensing that he either want me to apologize for the prostitution in my country or empower me to do something about it. Either way my lunch hour is almost up, I haven't had anything decent to eat yet and generally I can't come up with good arguments when I'm full let alone with an empty stomach.
I thought about it for awhile then said "I think you'll find that most Filipinos are pragmatic and if forced between what's religious and what's practical, practicality wins most of the time." I heard myself as I said it and wondered if its really a general statement about me rather than my country men. I continued "Prostitution is an easy way out for a lot of poor folks with very little recourse ... not that the country doesn't have it's share of anti flesh-trade practices."
He clearly did not like that suggestion, I think he is one of those people who are totally convinced that conviction to one's moral values should overcome any and all adversity. But I didn't really want to defend prostitution, nor highlight the correlation between that and poverty. So I decided to switch gear, change my tact but I couldn't come up with a better one. Then again this guy wasn't looking for a justification he wanted to get rid of the thing altogether and he want to deputize me to the task. At that point people started pouring into the queue behind me and we both decided that this conversation is mostly likely over. I shook his hand and thanked him for his help and walked out of the building.
If his goal was to raise awareness or simply to boast about his moral superiority I guess I will never know, I have no intention of having that conversation again... but I will definitely be stewing on that thought for awhile.